tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-688374863488035047.post2776206817951760716..comments2024-03-01T04:02:59.396-08:00Comments on LUXURIA: Compare and DespairVannessa@Luxuriahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13004543876391503184noreply@blogger.comBlogger29125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-688374863488035047.post-38955137873211730592013-11-23T01:15:02.175-08:002013-11-23T01:15:02.175-08:00hii everyone
I'm from India.
your blog is so ...hii everyone <br />I'm from India.<br />your blog is so nice. I like it and everything in your blog..<br />view more at <a href="http://indianjewellerynews.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">Indian Jewellery Designs</a>Sachin Singhhttp://indianjewellerynews.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-688374863488035047.post-37817193525269546752013-11-05T02:09:45.403-08:002013-11-05T02:09:45.403-08:00I love your blog, but don't have time to read ...I love your blog, but don't have time to read as am rushing to a very unglam work thing, in the rain grrr! However I just wanted to say, don't believe a word of it, she is probably funded by bank of mum and dad and lives her whole life through her blog/facebook, think how long it would take to plan and execute all that. Doesn't really leave time for a real job! A bit of a comparison isn't always a bad thing though, if reading that makes you do one thing to make your own life more successful, it works to your favour, carry on reading with your tongue in your cheek and scepticism and you will get the benefit of all her hard work without any soul eating jealousy!! Alexandra Petersenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03997258690652103266noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-688374863488035047.post-52952566856454481512013-11-04T22:21:24.564-08:002013-11-04T22:21:24.564-08:00Great post of concern for anyone. I can totally re...Great post of concern for anyone. I can totally relate to it, in phases in life I do tend to doubt which way to go. It seems the younger generation get it all much earlier. Thinking back I'm happy I got a University degree since I actually didn't know what to strive for in that age. I was totally clueless. Have had a great career, although laughing at myself finding myself clueless at 41, again...it's a phase. It's like at 40 you have to live it all out before it's too late. Comparing with a younger one is stressful but I would be more stressed if it was someone in my own age I guess. Have a great week Vanessa! xo CarolineBeautifulosophyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15768294192939414228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-688374863488035047.post-50370796941852464352013-10-31T05:40:19.922-07:002013-10-31T05:40:19.922-07:00Dearest Vanessa ... absolutely amazing post! not s...Dearest Vanessa ... absolutely amazing post! not sure how I missed it earlier. In the era of virtual living just like photo shop distorts the images we see in advertising ... blogs, FB , instagram etc. often just capture the "beautiful" parts of life. It's important to remember 2 things - 1) everyone has bad hair, skin, life days 2) you can create a new life anytime ... it's never too late to live the life of your dreams. Be inspired by this woman's FB page and her photos ... then use it to create your life as you want it to be! You are an inspiration to me and I adore you ... Hugs and Blessings, C. (HHL)highheeledlifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07205935979513877589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-688374863488035047.post-3871033492102229302013-10-30T12:25:01.842-07:002013-10-30T12:25:01.842-07:00Hi sweety, Stopping by to say Hi...Hope your week ...Hi sweety, Stopping by to say Hi...Hope your week is going well. Samhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07925023568867910705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-688374863488035047.post-83159602790453636502013-10-29T19:22:47.075-07:002013-10-29T19:22:47.075-07:00Hi my darling, darling friend. Sorry that's i...Hi my darling, darling friend. Sorry that's it taken me so long to get back to visiting my friends, I've been sitting at my desk buried in calendar illustration creation! First, let me just say once more (because you know I say it in practically every pose) how much I love your posts. I love that I always feel as if we're sitting at a coffee shop and discussing our deepest secrets and feelings. And not everyone makes you feel that way. You have a warm and inviting magic and I love it. And that is so much more valuable than someone that just shows how wonderful their life is every. single. minute. of. every. single. day. You have brought something up that I think affects us all. We are inundated with so many images everyday and it often seems that everyone is trying to outdo everyone else. We see so many pretty apartments and houses, everyone's pretty desk (usually scattered with confetti) and their pretty breakfasts and their pretty new manicures and I think it's natural for all of us to begin to wonder if their lives are really more glamorous and fun than ours (I think we know it's not really true, that they're showing us only what they want us to see). When people try so hard to be fabulous it makes me think that they are really probably insecure, trying to be as good as someone else that THEY are watching. I love the Pinterest quote that says "Comparison is the Thief of Joy." It's true. Anyway, I know the feeling you're describing. We keep watching someone even though inside we're thinking, "that's not real!" Almost like we're watching to see them trip up and show us a little of their non-fairytale-life (aka rea)l life. I had a neighbor once that said she didn't buy magazines because they only made her feel as if her house wasn't good enough and that she needed to buy more stuff to be happy. I think it's the same with all that we see on the internet. Okay, now I feel like I'm rambling and not really saying anything new now, but I bet everyone that read this post recognizes the feeling in themselves sometimes. And yet, what do we do? We keep watching .... ;) lol XOX love ya, V. ~SSandy at Ooh La Frou Frouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00264245559729663977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-688374863488035047.post-10574763193258486192013-10-29T08:20:58.419-07:002013-10-29T08:20:58.419-07:00Funny someone was talking to me about this theme a...Funny someone was talking to me about this theme a few days ago. To be honest, I have always known early on there are always those with more and plenty more with less so for me that isn't so much the rub. For me what I find so astonishing is how productive these women are. I just feel so darn lazy! They seem to either have a full on career or five kids and they still manage to look great cook keep a clean house. I don't have a proper job nor kids and yet how the heck am I exhausted!? I do feel that I am slovenly and didn't realise it until I started blogging...Coulda shoulda wouldahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12507021618497645667noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-688374863488035047.post-71914977660368215252013-10-29T06:33:11.801-07:002013-10-29T06:33:11.801-07:00Dear Vanessa,
I can certainly see why you commente...Dear Vanessa,<br />I can certainly see why you commented on my post, and I don't think it's a "dirty little secret" at all! I think it's human nature, and not uncommon in any way. The previous comments are spot on, in that no one's life/business/body/relationship is perfect, and it must be a huge burden to try and keep up a facade that isn't realistic. Your genuine, heartfelt post (and the way you live your life) is a breath of fresh air!<br />My very best,<br />DeeAnne x xDeeAnne Whitehttp://livethecharmedlife.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-688374863488035047.post-54101591394100918462013-10-29T06:25:25.078-07:002013-10-29T06:25:25.078-07:00I think all the comments above just about cover it...I think all the comments above just about cover it, I'm pretty lost for an answer anyway, I do the same thing myself, spend my life wishing I had other peoples lifestyles but I don't so tough, but I still like to look! Thanks for the ebay tip and you must get that jacket!Style At Every Agehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08651040515126111051noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-688374863488035047.post-88609058640314845302013-10-29T03:56:46.493-07:002013-10-29T03:56:46.493-07:00Thank you so much for you lovely comments Heather;...Thank you so much for you lovely comments Heather; so appreciated. Pleased you watched the film; terrifying isn't it? Thank you again for your lovely comments/link over at yours xxVannessa@Luxuriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13004543876391503184noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-688374863488035047.post-25656874214812647692013-10-29T03:55:27.921-07:002013-10-29T03:55:27.921-07:00Ha! Dale if I tell you I will have to kill you ;-)...Ha! Dale if I tell you I will have to kill you ;-) xxVannessa@Luxuriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13004543876391503184noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-688374863488035047.post-46072638560696033762013-10-29T03:02:37.621-07:002013-10-29T03:02:37.621-07:00I'm very much like the "normal" you ...I'm very much like the "normal" you - very comfy in my own skin and talents and pursuits - but I too notice that lately I've started to slip into feeling "not enough" around certain people. One thing I observed is that it usually happens when I'm exhausted, not feeling well, or haven't taken time to be alone with myself. When I can shut down the outside world and be alone with me, those "not enough" feelings dissipate. I've been doing a lot of culling in the feeds I allow into my life and it has made a huge difference. I figure that we all have gifts and talents and stories that are good for some but not for all. So if I need to stop following someone it's simply because they aren't good for me right now, and I feel the same way about someone who can't follow me. You are enough, you are just who you need to be and where you need to be, and you'll figure out what is best for your spirit. :-) XOKristahttp://www.ramblingtart.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-688374863488035047.post-38990289518122731112013-10-27T14:22:18.793-07:002013-10-27T14:22:18.793-07:00Dear Vannessa, there will always be someone more s...Dear Vannessa, there will always be someone more successful, more good at marketing her/himself, more attractive, richer, name one. Who knows if the person you are talking about has someone who knows her better than herself? I think comparing our career to others' is harmful and counterproductive. I often experience lacks of confidence and frustration, especially when I get to know that a colleague nicer to our boss has a higher salary or that a blogger ten years younger than me is driven to press event chauffeured while my feet are sore from walking from the nearest metro station. But then... if I had my colleague's salary for being nicer to my pig-of-a-boss I wouldn't be as proud of myself, and if I had had a fancy blogger's life ten years ago, I wouldn't have met my shy, honest, mountain trekking husband and have what I consider the most valuable thing in my life, that is my family. You will have exactly what you set your mind to. That saying " be careful what you wish for..." I agree with it after all. Just remove her from your feeds, friend's advice. If she doesn't make you feel well, you don't need a coach like that, do you? Big hugs and positive vibes. With huge admiration, your Coco<br />Love <br /><a href="http://www.pinktopping.blogspot.it" rel="nofollow">Coco et La vie en rose </a><br /><a href="http://www.bloglovin.com/blog/3862475/la-vie-en-rose" rel="nofollow">Coco et La vie en rose on Bloglovin</a><br /><a href="http://www.facebook.com/pinktoppingblog" rel="nofollow">Coco et La vie en rose on Facebook</a>Cocohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12779523547941985131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-688374863488035047.post-90171034626788928352013-10-25T17:10:07.391-07:002013-10-25T17:10:07.391-07:00Hi Vannessa, I am so glad you touched on this subj...Hi Vannessa, I am so glad you touched on this subject! Its a tricky one indeed. I am neither on FB or Twitter our any other social network simply because I am not interested in people showing off about their so-called fabulous lives all the time. I honestly think its all a hoax, its the perfect illusion they create through masterful photography and personal marketing. People show you want they want you to see on online media, not whats really going on. They are not going to post a picture of them having a bad hair day or having a terrible time at work. I find Facebook and BBM far too fake and 'produced'. Thanks for bringing up this throughout-provoking topic. Stopping by to wish you a wonderful weekend. Samhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07925023568867910705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-688374863488035047.post-32951973265491865652013-10-25T10:24:07.549-07:002013-10-25T10:24:07.549-07:00Gorgeous images and heartfelt words here Vannessa....Gorgeous images and heartfelt words here Vannessa. I always appreciate your depth of honesty and genuineness. I think you and I are similar in wanting to share more than just the 'glossy' image of life. Sharing hope-even in the not so pretty parts of life-is essential I think. Another thought provoking post my friend. By the way, your last post has been on my mind for a week. I included a link in the post I just published. That documentary was haunting. Thank you for spurring my need to do more research and learn more. <br />Have a wonderful weekend girlfriend!<br />xx, Heather Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17032908426814046368noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-688374863488035047.post-33248877819668697012013-10-24T12:49:43.504-07:002013-10-24T12:49:43.504-07:00Hilarious!Hilarious!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-688374863488035047.post-75638557132861188862013-10-24T12:42:37.343-07:002013-10-24T12:42:37.343-07:00Wow Vanessa. Great post and it's so honest, I ...Wow Vanessa. Great post and it's so honest, I had to read every single word because I think that's it's definitely not just you. I see some bloggers and wish I started so long ago, hehe. BTW, now I'm so curious to know who you're talking about. :) I think we all feel this at some points and the truth is she probably has someone she looks to that makes her feel not as accomplished as she'd like to be. Great job writing this! :) xoDaleJanandJill.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15994112162655490024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-688374863488035047.post-84679406894330200812013-10-24T12:38:59.822-07:002013-10-24T12:38:59.822-07:00Hi Kim Good point. My parents were always consciou...Hi Kim Good point. My parents were always conscious of never giving us things "easily" even though they could ;-) I think it's the flaunting bit that is starting to show. But then again I wonder if she is trying to show her target market "look what you can have if you work hard". There is that element to it which I think is where she is coming from.Vannessa@Luxuriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13004543876391503184noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-688374863488035047.post-18802595309244380462013-10-24T12:15:33.389-07:002013-10-24T12:15:33.389-07:00Very beautiful post Vannessa. It's definitely ...Very beautiful post Vannessa. It's definitely not you. I think we all have a curiosity that needs fulfillment. The way I look at it is you're concerned about her. From what you've written, I'm concerned about her. I'm happy for her success. I hope she's truly happy. I'm nowhere near rich, but I've encountered individuals like this. Sometimes there's a sadness that lies beneath all those things. I'm not big on flaunting. She seems to be doing that, which isn't good. Because if things went awry for whatever reason, I wonder if she could handle it. I don't believe in competing either. When I see people with nice things, I admire them. Oh, I'm babbling. I hope this makes sense. I'm scared for younger people nowadays. They want so much and things so fast. I can't imagine what they'll want by the time they are older.<br />http://www.averysweetblog.com/A Very Sweet Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00952918199561874968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-688374863488035047.post-44599216351080495402013-10-24T11:29:34.940-07:002013-10-24T11:29:34.940-07:00Dear Anon
Thank you so much for your lovely commen...Dear Anon<br />Thank you so much for your lovely comments. I LOVE your perspective and it's how many of us really live our lives; the good, the bad and the ugly. I think sometimes milestone birthdays do tend to make us reflect on achievements. I too do the same and always wish everything nice had happened sooner and everything horrid had never happened at all. Hope you pop by again and thank you so much for commenting xVannessa@Luxuriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13004543876391503184noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-688374863488035047.post-9828454281019631962013-10-24T11:26:12.946-07:002013-10-24T11:26:12.946-07:00So pleased it's not only me ;-) I love your la...So pleased it's not only me ;-) I love your last sentence of " comparison being the thief of joy".<br />Thank you so much for your lovely comments xVannessa@Luxuriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13004543876391503184noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-688374863488035047.post-14381532039649168202013-10-24T11:24:41.516-07:002013-10-24T11:24:41.516-07:00Oh Lordy Tabs! Thank God you don't live near m...Oh Lordy Tabs! Thank God you don't live near me as we would have had our own pity party, and only you and I would be in attendance ;-) You are so right about the intelligent and sensitive responses I have had. I can't tell you how they have lifted my spirits sky high xVannessa@Luxuriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13004543876391503184noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-688374863488035047.post-37049440576123270912013-10-24T11:22:14.989-07:002013-10-24T11:22:14.989-07:00Awwh! thank you so much Catherine. I never saw mys...Awwh! thank you so much Catherine. I never saw myself as a "comparer" but always a great supporter of women. So the feelings I have been having have been a little unusual. But I am starting to see after reading you and Lou's comments that this is simply a symptom of the internet not a symptom of me ;-)Vannessa@Luxuriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13004543876391503184noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-688374863488035047.post-27426897846353212062013-10-24T11:05:15.742-07:002013-10-24T11:05:15.742-07:00Hello Vanessa: I just found your blog via another...Hello Vanessa: I just found your blog via another blog and I'm glad I did! You have indeed touched on a subject that has also been haunting my thoughts since I turned 50 (I'm now 54 since August)! I also wasn't buying Chanel or a BMW in my 20's, 30's or 40's but I did receive a Mont Blanc fountain pen on my 34th birthday from my family. While I know I could have done much more with my life, I try to focus on what I have accomplished up to now because now, I'm glad for the sacrifices, good choices and bad decisions that prepared me to fall back on something (like two college degrees) and I'm so grateful I did that while I was younger. It's making my half century and beyond much sweeter and less stressful.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-688374863488035047.post-18813627717167220512013-10-24T09:43:23.127-07:002013-10-24T09:43:23.127-07:00Wonderful post! I too, have become guilty of this....Wonderful post! I too, have become guilty of this. Its sort of like during the great depression when Hollywood produced all those glamorous movies about over the top wealthy people. It was intended to cheer the ordinary folks up. Not sure if it did, but they are fun to watch now. I find it difficult to look away from these glossy lives as well. Comparison is the thief of joy, but it's so hard not to do. Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04723360304687997220noreply@blogger.com