Who Is Your 3am Friend?

Since being back in London I am trying desperately to catch-up
with both old and new friends.

Last week I spoke with one of my best friends; we've been
friends for more than 25 years.

After  happy tears and lots of girlie screams
she said to me "Van, you are definitely my 3am friend".

So this got us both debating what gives
someone the "honor" of being your 3am friend?

Who would you call first if you found out you were pregnant,
got the job you desperately wanted, if you won an award?
(after your respective partners and family of course.......
or maybe not ;-)

Who could write your obituary and clean
your computer if your died ;-)

(if like me you are a fan of Greys Anatomy, you will
"get" the above and how important a
3am friend is)

Who would you call first if your had front row
seats for the hottest tickets in town?

Who would drive there and back for you?
Who's seen you do the Ugly Cry?
Who could order for you at a restaurant?

Do you have  a 3am friend or do you think with family
they are not necessary?

One thing I discovered living in Spain was that
because families all live very close to each other,
people never nurtured friendships; they didn't "need"
friends, so they never invested time in friends.

I actually found that very sad. I think we all need
a 3am friend irrespective of how fantastic our 
family/husbands/partners are.

Maybe I'm wrong. 

I would love to hear your thoughts and
about your 3am friend if you have one.

p.s don't forget to see our previous post with details of our Flash sale which ends Tuesday 2 October.


  1. Ha, I'm in bed at 9.30pm!
    But mine is a fab girl with the initials NH, she has gotten me though some awful times in my life.

    1. It's so easy to go to bed at 9.30pm in the UK Tabs.

  2. You're right about the relationships in Spain, in some ways that is really sad-we all need good friends and not just close family. At the same time I think Americans could benefit from the notion of such a tight-knit family. Many are often in the same house and don't eat dinner together and all watch TV in separate rooms. LOL!

    I feel fortunate to have 4 close friends, of those though there is one who stands out more than the others and whom I would call my 3am friend at this point in my life. A decade ago that person would have been one of the other gals but life changes and so do we so sometimes that 3am person in our life changes too. She has been there for me through the worst times and also celebrated in the best. One day when hubby and I decide to start a family, she will be the first person (after our parents of course) that I will call to tell the good news. ;) She just became a mom herself a couple months ago.

    1. So so right Karla; our 3am friends do seem to change as we get older. Mine certainly have.

  3. Hey V! I can totally relate!!! I have a few 3am friends too, the ones that mean the world to me and can count on no matter what... I am extremely lucky to have these people in my life and I love 'em!

    Lovely post V - A Happy October to you lady! May your month sparkle!

  4. "You're' my person....""! - love that quote from "Grey's", Christina & Meredith....remember when Christina climbed into bed with Derek & Meredith!!? I do love their friendship in the show.

    A 3am friend is definitely a special one - and yes, they are the best kind of friends. I have some for sure.

    I do have a good friend who I actually told first (ie, before my husband) when I was pregnant!! And then because I'd done it the first time, I called her and told her the second time too!!

    My girlfriends are everything to me...increasingly so actually.

    Happy to be your "3PM" friend if there's a vacancy!! XX

    1. I love Christina and Meredith's relationship too. But I think it is because they are so ying and yang that it works so well.Of course there is a vacancy for you SIm ; 3pm suits me fine xx

  5. Wonderful ! Wonderful! post.... Yes, I certainly believe everyone should be blessed with a 3:00 am friend. This person may change from time to time - as life and things happen. But to be able to build a strong friendship with someone, is priceless... to know that you could call them from anywhere at anytime is a true blessing. To my friend! and 3:00 am friends all over the world... Blessings, C. (HHL)

    1. Yes you are so right Celia.We all need these special people in our lives more so as we get older xx

  6. I feel extremely lucky to have two, 3 am friends. Both would help me drag the body across the living room floor but only one would actually know how to get rid of the body. She's also my 3pm cocktail buddy! Lovely post. Makes me feel warm and fuzzy all over !

    1. Awwwwh! Thank you so much for your lovely comments xx

  7. Yes, I side on you with this. 3am friends for me frees my soul. Glad I'm blessed with two sweet people. Got my eye on your next posts.

  8. Such a thought provoking post. Yes, after much thought, I do have a couple of 3 am friends which is comforting. It took some thought because I rely so heavily on my friendship with my husband, I consider him to be my best friend ever. Sadly, one of my 3 am friends lives states away. But the other one I am going to see today! Lovely post, Vanessa.

  9. Yes! A 3 a.m friend .. a close friend is so important! I think a few close friends is more important than having lots of superficial ones. Great post!


  10. Hi my dear, how are you doing? Loved the theme of this post, it really got me thinking about my 3am friend...it takes a really special kind of bond to have that type of relationship. Finding those really precious friends are rare, and we should hold onto them tightly. Loved the Greys quote!

  11. This a great post, Vanessa. I have a few close friends, but it's not really the 3 am thing anymore. Maybe at 9 am.

    Unfortunately, I don't know if I spend as much quality time with my friends as I should.

  12. This reminds me how much closer I used to be with my friends. I let family totally take over and the blogging thing doesn't really help with my social life either. There's something really special about this kind of friend!

  13. I have one friend like that, and she's just moved to Canada, so we can't talk as often as we would like. But I know that whenever I need her, she'll be there for me.
    How are you doing, sweetie?

    xx Ivana
    Macarons and Pearls

  14. So sweet. I used to have 2 of them but, not to be morbid here, they both passed away in the past 3 years... Maybe one day I'll have another but for now I guess I'd say it's just J and maybe my sis :)

    Hope you're having a great weekend, love! xoxo


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