Tentative Steps Back on the Bandwagon

In the late 1990's I went to a seminar
that changed my view on just how much
control I have over my life.

I went to a seminar by the man who I still think
brought life strategies to the masses and who
I still consider to be one of the BEST.


My Dream Team; Tony Robbins and Oprah

I was so inspired with what I heard at that
3 day seminar. I just soaked everything up
and came away bursting with enthusiasm in a 
way I had never felt before.

I suddenly felt for the first time
that I was the navigator of my life.
I was going to drive my life in the way
I wanted too.
I wasn't going to follow anyone else's map
(which I am proud to say I haven't)

I bored everyone who came into
contact with me with what I had

One year later whilst Hubs was working
in Hong Kong, I took unpaid leave from
my corporate life and I went to the US to train with
 Anthony Robbins

I then started coaching friends, and friends
of  friends, and gradually my business grew
beyond anything I could have imagined.

I never advertised. I never marketed.
It just grew organically.
I didn't even have a website and of course
Twitter and Facebook didn't exist then.

And then something happened.
Everywhere I looked people where calling
themselves Life Coaches; people who perhaps had 
just read a book on coaching, 20-somethings who had done
a weekend course. EVERYONE.

I was really peeved. 
What can a 20-something know about
What experience both professional or personal can a 20-something
bring to the table?

How can reading a book make you eligible to start
charging people for your services?

In fact I spoke to a business coach not
that long ago who said to me
"I see you are NLP trained. What
is that?". I was flabbergasted.
If you are not a coach I don't
expect you to know. BUT if you are a coach
you damn well should know and
yet she was charging phenomenal
amounts for her coaching services.
Was this right?
Was this ethical?

Anyway back to 2005 where I was still peeved. 
So I threw all my toys
out of the pram, stamped my feet and decided
that apart from some very close clients
I was not taking on any more clients.

Fast forward to Winter 2013 and 
a couple of old clients made contact with me.
They had new challenges and wanted to work with me
again. Of course I said NO.

However not that long after my best friend
and I were having a conversation about the
new contacts. I explained to her that my life 
was all about "sparkles" now.

She then said something surprising.
She said "you are letting your ego make
this decision for you". 
How could she say that?

She explained that as soon as I felt 
everyone had jumped on the coaching
bandwagon, I decided I had to jump off 
(as I was never one to follow the masses ;-)
It was never a logical decision in her eyes 
(and she knows me better than anyone).

We spoke about how much I loved coaching,
how I grew my business organically and
with very little effort. How I always felt
that with my Psychology background I could
move my coaching clients forward much faster.

She asked me, "why can't you coach and 
have sparkles in your life?"

I didn't really have an argument, so I said I
would "think about it"
(my usual way of stalling a decision when I don't
know what to do).

She continued to nag me throughout the Winter 
(as only a best friend can).

Then in the summer of  2013 someone contacted
me via my blog and asked if I was still coaching.
Was this serendipity?
My best friend thought it was.
So I tentatively said yes.

We've been having a blast; I've
been loving it. I also come to the table with
8 years more life experience under my belt (the
good, the bad and the down right ugly ;-)

So after much thought and cajoling
from certain quarters I have decided
to dip my toes tentatively back into

Apart from a couple of old clients that I
started re-working with and a new client via my blog
I decided to open up only 
THREE more slots.
As I have NEVER had a website
for my coaching I am mentioning
this only here on my blog.

If you are interested and would
like a 30 minute complimentary chat 
to see if it's really for you,
then drop me a line. Even if you are not
sure what the hell coaching really is,
I would be happy to talk to  you.

I would love to know your thoughts about
coaching? Is it just a waste of time?
Do you feel you can work through your 
own things without having someone tell you
how to do it?
Do you prefer to talk through challenges
with family and friends?
Have you ever worked with a coach?

Finally back to sparkles.

These SABRINA earrings are new and 
not yet in our shop; they will be going in in October.
The web price will eventually be 165.00 (GBP)

However  for blog followers and subscribers
I am offering these for 120.00 (GBP)
which is approx $195.
This offer ends Saturday 28 September.

Have a lovely weekend Lovelies


  1. I would love to do this with you sometime, but i pretty much feel that i am lost cause!

    1. Oh no! It makes me sad to hear you say that, even if you meant it tongue-in-cheek. You are not a lost cause; don't call yourself that. If you don't support you, who will? Maybe you should call Van.

    2. I agree with Lisa Tabs, don't say that. Email me whenever you feel like a chat xx

  2. I would love to have you as a coach! So much of what you post on this blog really resonates with me and your words are so full of meaning, thoughtful and wise. Now that I know you were a life coach, it all makes sense where that depth and wisdom comes from. I look forward to working with you, if it's meant to be!

    1. Dear Anon, would love to know who you are. You clearly read my blog often. Now I'm curious ;-)
      Thank you for your lovely comments

  3. I would love to have a chat with you. I started a new life in January 2012 when I married after being widowed in 2005. I was a young widow. I still don't have clarity about what my new life looks like. It would be great to gain some clarity around that.

    1. Congratulations Kathy on coming so far already. To pick yourself up after being a widow is something I am not sure I would have the strength for. Drop me an e.mail whenever you desire and we can set up a chat (vanessa@luxuria-jewellery.com)

  4. I'm impressed Vanessa! You are a resourceful lady with such a rich background and never showing it off. My humble opinion is that if you have the knowledge and the training to give other people advice that can improve their quality of life like Mr. Robbins did with you, it would be great if you could use your know-how and experience to make that happen. With profound admiration, Coco
    Coco et La vie en rose
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    1. Thank you so much Coco. Took a lot of soul-searching xx

  5. I LOVE your blog so much! The layout is amazing.
    I'm your newest follower via google (256).
    I'd love it if you could check out my blog and follow me back as well Also,
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    1. Thank you. Popped over to yours but as I don't understand Turkish I didn't get very far :-(

  6. I think it is so great that you are starting to life coach again. I am sure it is something you are wonderful at. I have to say that I am not entirely clear what life coaching involves but I have often wondered if it would be helpful to me.

    Tracy @ Sunny Days and Starry Nights

  7. How wonderful Vanessa...I'm sure you will be a great success you are a lady full of wisdom you will help so many I'm sure...Congratulations!
    Happy Weekend.

  8. Hi Vannessa, I had no idea you did life coaching, but it does make sense seeing how inspirational you are here on your blog. I know what you mean about other people claiming a career over something without anything to back it up. But we shouldnt let that get the best of us. You are excellent at what you do, and your ideas, skills and motivation needs to be shared with the rest of the world. Thanks for your kind words. Have a great weekend!

    1. Awwwh! you are so kind Sam. As my friend said, those that claim a career without any training usually get found out in the end ;-)
      Have a lovely glamorous weekend Lovely xx

  9. In my line of work(I work in professional development), I do notice that you are right, there are a dime a dozen life and business coaches out there and I don't know how they all survive in the business. Some aren't good at all, but I think it boils down to finding the right fit and some of them are too arrogant for their own good I think. It sounds like you're one of those that lets your work and experience speak for itself and I am very sure many lives are richer because you've come back to it. :)

    1. Thank you so much Sweets and loved your post about your Grandmother; it just exuded l love xx

  10. Mon ami ... what a beautiful gift you are sharing with the world. I'm so happy to learn that you are expanding (back) into life coaching. A good listening ear and the ability to ask the right questions is something that is born with you - life experience provides the ability to be able to relate to the challenges others are facing. You my friend, are going to help so many people move forward in their life! I'm just starting to dip my toes in the coaching pool ... as I have found that through osmosis I have been doing it with friends and friends of friends and even a couple of strangers who are going through similar things I have post -accident and learn about me through the brain injury society of Toronto. I have recently completed formal training and am looking to expand my knowledge - would love to learn more from some someone such as yourself - who has been there. I have been looking into NLP - which program would you recommend? My sister attended a Tony Robbins conference in Chicago a couple months back - and she is looking into studying more ... her direction is business focused, as she has a natural gift when it comes to focusing a business - especially in the restaurant industry.

    Again so happy for you!!! Hugs my friend..xo C. (HHL)

    1. So happy for you Celia. You certainly have a niche that is so untapped that you it would be brilliant. I am so happy for you. I agree that sometimes we need to go through the rough stuff to actually have some perspective.
      Drop me an e.mail Celia and you can tap my brains as much as you wish ;-)
      Thank you for your lovely comments also. You are always too kind ;-) xx

  11. I am SO thrilled to hear this, luv!! Just from reading your blog I know that you would be a brilliant coach: honest, forthright, and inspiring as all get out. :-) Cheering wildly for you from Oz. :-) XOXO

  12. Vanessa-Cheers to you my friend!! What an inspiring post. I am hear to say that of course we can do both. Sparkles and Coaching for you...School Psychology and lifestyle and travel for me. In fact-not only can we do it-I think we need it for balance in our lives. I've always appreciated your support and understanding of my career and I am thrilled to hear you are getting back into coaching.
    Can't wait to hear more! Gorgeous earrings by the way (see-we can do both!;)
    Congrats my friend! xx, Heather

  13. Wow I absolutely love this post Vanessa! I'm almost blown away that you've trained with Tony Robbins! Of course you should follow your heart, maybe NOW is the time and not before?! I totally understand about the thoughts on everybody being a coach all of a sudden. But, all of them were not holding out like you, now is the time for good coaching! xo Caroline

  14. With your blog, you really inspires a lot of your readers with the different thoughts of wisdom you had shared on your page.

  15. Wonderful post! I purchased the AR series for husband one year and we still listen to it... he got me hooked also. I say follow your heart. You will know what is right for you.
    Wishing you a fabulous week!
    xoxo, B

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  17. Just dropped by to say hi sweets :-)

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