Twinkle Toes

Oct 31, 2013

Firstly a HUGE thank you
for all the wonderful comments
on the previous post.

It was so assuring to read that
I wasn't the only one going through
this mad crazy behavior of
compare and despair.

Your comments were truly
eye-opening and so appreciated.

So I thought I would keep
things a little "light" this
week after 2 quite heavy
posts previously.

If you missed my Compare and
Despair post it's here.

If you missed my controversial
opinions on breast cancer
research, it's here.

OK, so back to sparkles :-)

As the nights start to well and truly
draw in here in the UK, it's usually
the time I start to think of sparkles for the


Bold. Beautiful. Striking crystal
heels seemed to be all over
the catwalk.

Guiseppe Zanotti

I so LOVE these

Don't forget Mini-Me

What's your thoughts?
Are you prone to channeling your
Dorothy when the winter and subsequent
party season arrives?

As always love to read your comments


Compare and Despair

Oct 24, 2013

OK, here's the thing.
In this land of blogs, Pinterest,
Facebook updates and Instagram
it is so easy to take a peep into
other peoples glossy lives and
start comparing where you are with
where everyone else.

Now I've never been one to compare
or be competitive when it comes to my choices
in comparison with my friends for example.

I always seemed to move against the tide
and was always happy not following convention.

But something strange has been starting to happen.

I have started the dreaded "compare and despair"
(well not quite despair, but you can see where I am 
going with this).

OK let me tell you my 
dirty little secret.

You see I follow someone on Facebook
who is not even in the same industry as me
(she is in online marketing/coaching)

She is super glamorous, very young.
She has glamorous photo-shoots done in
her home on a regular basis
that are now starting to look too staged 
for me to be honest, yet I still love seeing them.
What's that all about? Why don't I just turn on the
TV and watch Real Housewives of NYC or something?

She is clearly very successful 
and I really do admire her 
drive at such a young age.

However I did one of her courses and wasn't 
that impressed with it at all and decided
that she was great at marketing her
personal brand  but maybe there 
was not so much substance under
the gloss (until Hubs said "maybe
you decided you would consciously not 
like the course so that you could prove 
your theory that she's
all gloss and nothing else")

The pen gifted to Dita Von Teese by Mont Blanc

How DARE he.

BUT was he right?
(he knows me better than
anyone ;-)

HOWEVER (now this is the scary bit)
 I am still addicted
to seeing her photos, what she's bought,
what she's wearing, where's she holidaying etc.

Now this is SO unlike me it is frightening ME!

As I look at her Facebook feed
I am starting to notice a "flaunting"about
lots of the photos she does now , and yet I can't
 resist following
(but on the other hand she could
be showing her younger target market
what they can have if they work hard.
There is that side to it too).

She seems to be idolised by many
younger business women who
follow her (as I guess that
is her target market)

How gorgeous is this work space?

However, the bigger question is why
don't I just click away and be done
with it?

But no! I then start comparing
how I was at her age. I didn't really know
where I was going or who I was and I
certainly wasn't buying Hermés or
Chanel in my 20's.


I then start comparing the older me with this person 
(even more dangerous) and start to
despair that I left it too
late to acquire all my dreams
so I might as well
give up now and crawl
back under the duvet.

Those of you who have followed
me for some time know this is SO not me.
I am so driven and optimistic about
whatever life throws at me.

So what's happening?

Chanel, pearl, white

Maybe I am living my fantasy
of how I "wish" I had been through her?

Maybe it's who I want to be now
from a business perspective?

Is it dangerous never showing
the real you; your bad days, your
vulnerabilities etc? Is it totally
unrealistic, or is this glamorous
escapism what people need to be inspired
and to escape their own realities?

The danger is clearly when you start
comparing your progress with someone

Is this really dangerous territory or
just all harmless fun?

I'm really baffled, not only with
my "continuous curiosity", but how
I have no answers as to why it's happening.

Note to self

I would love to hear your thoughts


Why "Pink-tober" Makes Me So Angry + Sad

Oct 17, 2013

October and pink needs no explanation really.

If you are a new follower, you may
wish to read here how I've been touched by
breast cancer, and why I controversially
believe we will NEVER make progress with
breast cancer research.

In the 20+ years since I lost my
Mum, there hasn't really been any progress
in research. I have my reasons for this
very clear having worked for
the Medical Research Council (London) for 
many years.

And then the penny dropped.
From that day forward I stopped contributing
to cancer research charities (which I was a huge
advocate of before).

Twenty plus years on and we are still fighting the

disease in the same way; your options are to cut,
burn or poison.

Most Oncologists will admit
they would NOT choose the chemo-
therapy route for a member of their
own family, no matter
how bad the cancer was!

Is that progress?

But the food industry is huge and our governments
get enormous revenue from the food and 
pharmaceutical industry (which work hand in hand)

We are all living with false hope, when the answer is much
easier-change what you put into your body.

Just pop over to You Tube and watch the fabulous
film The Beautiful Truth about 
The Gerson Therapy,
told from a young boys perspective
(the film your doctor doesn't want
you to know about).

Or read any of the fabulous books on
Gerson Therapy,
and convince me cancer is not related
to food (something Governments have 
known for decades but felt the average
person wasn't intelligent enough 
to process the facts).

This is a subject very close to my heart,
so sorry if I have come across "preachy".
I just get so angry by how we are all being

One thing I know for sure. If cancer research was a 
business, the shareholders would have shut it down
decades ago. How can billions have been contributed 
to a cause and yet we are still no further forward?
We are not eradicating the disease. It is more
virulent than ever and we are treating it in the same
way we did 30-40 years ago.
Is that progress?

Ironically I am posting this
post on the exact day my Mum
died at aged only 48.

Totally unintentional, but
I dedicate it to my
Mummy nonetheless:-)

I would so love to hear
your thoughts .


Which Button?

Oct 10, 2013

I saw this on Facebook.
It was posted by the lovely
Simon Jordan (a marketing genius)
and I just couldn't resist sharing with
my lovely blog babes.

OK, so pick your button and don't forget
to tell us why.

I'll start.
I would pick pink
(I know it says the ability to heal
a non-fatal wound) but I'm assuming
diseases fall into this category as they
are not wounds per sé?

As some of my older blog friends know,
I lost my Mum to cancer when she was
only 48. For the first time I felt 
 helpless  (I was only
24 at the time). 
I just literally had to stand
back and watch it all unfold.

It still haunts me to this day.
So that's my reason.

On the other hand, the grey
button would be great for tidying
up after the Mr ;-)

What's yours ?

necklace, pendants, gemstones, jewelry, jewellery,pink, green
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Back to Black

Oct 3, 2013

There is something very comforting
about the on-set of Autumn/Winter.

Yes, I can crawl back to my love
for black.

I absolutely LOVE all things black

About 20 years ago I had my
colors done at House of Color in London.
Thankfully, black was very much in my spectrum.

However, all the autumnal colors that we are currently
enjoying were not. So you will never find
an orange, brown, beige, cream (and
any variations on a theme) in my wardrobe.

But you will find lots of black.
Dior Darling

Jason Wu

Black does seem to epitomize
luxury, sophistication, power;
most luxury brands have some
kind of black logo thing
going on

The term "new black" is now coined
often to describe a color fashion trend.
Anyone know what the "new black"
is this season?

Black Liquorice Macarons

Black Beluga Caviar

I've always had black cars. 
Apparently if you own a 
black car it is "supposed" to say
you are "empowered, not easily
manipulated, loves elegance, appreciates
Or you just want a car you don't
have to wash too often (which
was my case).

Henry Ford said
"People can have the Model T in any
color so long as it is black"

" I've been 40 years discovering
that the queen of all colors was
black" (Renoir)

"There's something about black.
You feel hidden away in it" (G.O`Keeffe)

black jewelry, black cuff, black bangle


"Black is not a color" (Monet)

So what's your take on black?
Is you wardrobe/closet filled to the
brim with black items?

Have you used black in 
your interiors?

Do you think we all wear
too much black (as my friends
in Spain are always saying
about us Brits). If I ask
a Spanish or Italian
person to describe a Brits style,
"black" and "drab" always seem to
end up in the mix :-(

Would love to hear your thoughts

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